Tuesday, March 30, 2010

From The Secret Daily Teachings
You cannot bring what you want to you if you are feeling stress. Stress or any tension at all is something you have to remove from your system.

You must let the stress go - it is the only way you can bring what you want. The emotion of stress is saying strongly that you do NOT have what you want. Stress or tension is the absence of faith, and so to remove it all you have to do is increase your faith!
"Don't bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself." - William Faulkner

Monday, March 29, 2010

"It's too bad failures don't give seminars. Wouldn't that be valuable? If you meet a guy who has messed up his life for 40 years, you've just got to say, 'John, if I bring my journal and promise to take good notes, would you spend a day with me?'" - Jim Rohn
"Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person you become." - Jim Rohn
Basics of Healthy Relationships by Jim Rohn
Nothing can bring more joy to life than beautifully fulfilling relationships. The depth of meaning, understanding and appreciation that these kinds of relationships bring is almost unfathomable. And, of course, as many people find out, nothing can bring so much pain as a broken relationship with someone dear to you.

Yes, relationships make the world go ‘round. For better or for worse. But the exciting thing is that we can do much to increase our chances of having terrific relationships—relationships that are fulfilling and exciting, rich with meaning, joy and love. There are basics that govern most human relationships, and these basics are what I want to cover below. So here is my list of the eight essentials that I believe make up the basics of healthy relationships.

Love. Now, this all depends on your definition of love. Most people think that love is a feeling, but I would strongly debate that point. Actually, the concept of “like” is really about feelings. When you say you like someone, you are talking about how you feel. But when you say that you love someone, you are not necessarily talking about how you feel about them. Love is much deeper than a feeling. Love is a commitment we make to people to always treat that person right and honorably. Yes, for those we become especially close to, we will have feelings of love, but I believe it is time for us to re-examine what we mean by love. We must expand our definition of what love means by including the commitment aspect of love. For healthy relationships, we must love everyone. We may not like them based on how we feel about them, but we should love them based on our definition of love above, which, in turn, determines how we should act toward them—that is, treat them right and honorably. This is the basis of all healthy relationships.

Serving Heart. My good friend Zig Ziglar says frequently that “you can have everything you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want out of life.” The concept he is talking about is having a heart and life that is focused on serving other people. The Bible puts it this way: Consider others’ interests as more important than your own. This is also fundamental to healthy relationships.

Honest Communication. In any good relationship, you will find open and honest communication. Communication is so important because it is the vehicle that allows us to verbalize what is inside us and enables it to connect with another person. Isn’t communication amazing? One person is feeling one thing, and through communication, another person can find that out and feel it, too—amazing. And this is a vital goal in good relationships—to communicate, to tell each other what we are thinking and what we are feeling. It enables us to make a connection. Sometimes we are the one speaking, and other times we are listening. Either way, the central tenet is communication for the sake of building the relationship and making it stronger. And here’s what’s exciting: If we just communicate, we can get by. But if we communicate skillfully, we can work miracles!

Friendliness. Put simply, relationships just work better when we are friendly with others. Being friendly can cushion the bumpy ride we sometimes experience in our relationships. Cheerfulness goes a long way toward building lasting relationships. I mean, nobody wants to be around a grump, do they? The fact is that the friendlier you are, the more you are going to have people who want to pursue longer-lasting, mutually beneficial relationships with you. So cheer up, put on a smile, have kind words to say to others, treat people with a great deal of friendliness, and you will see your relationships improve.

Patience. People being people, we have an awful lot of time for practice in the area of patience. People are not perfect and will constantly fail us. And, conversely, we will fail other people. So while we try to have more patience for others, we need their patience as well. So often, I think relationships break down because people give up and lose patience. I am talking about all kinds of friendships, marriages, business relationships, etc. Recent research has shown that those marriages that go through major turmoil and then make it through are very strong after doing so. Patience wins out. Those who give up on relationships too early or because the other person isn’t perfect often forget that their next friend, their next spouse or business partner will not be perfect either! So, we would do well to cultivate this skill and learn to have more patience.

Loyalty. Loyalty is a commitment to another person. Sadly, loyalty is often a missing element in many relationships today. We have forgotten what it means to be loyal. Our consumer mentality has affected this to some degree. People are no longer loyal to a product. And, unfortunately, many companies are not loyal to their clients or patrons. Regrettably, this has spilled over into our relationships. It is one thing to switch brands of dishwashing detergent. It is another thing altogether to switch friends. Sometimes we just need to commit to being loyal and let the relationship move forward. We need a higher level of stick-to-it-iveness! This kind of loyalty will take our relationships to a much deeper level. What a powerful and secure feeling of knowing that you have a relationship with someone who is loyal to you and you to them—that neither of you is going anywhere even when things get tough. Wow—how powerful!

A Common Purpose. One of the basics of healthy relationships is to have a common purpose, and oftentimes this is a component that is initially overlooked, but for a long-term, long-lasting relationship it is vital. Think about how many friends you have met through the years while working on a common purpose. Maybe it was someone you met while participating in sports, while working on a political campaign, attending church, at your office, or anything that brought you together to work on a common purpose. You had that strong common bond of purpose that brought you together and held you together. Working together, building together, failing and succeeding together—all while pursuing a common purpose—that is what relationships are made of. Find people with whom you have common purposes and sow the seeds of great relationships, and then reap the long-lasting benefits.

Fun. All good relationships have some element of fun. Now, that doesn’t necessarily mean loud, raucous fun, though that is appropriate for some relationships. But even in business relationships there should be some fun. It should be fun to do business with those who you are going to have a long-term business relationship with. Fun brings enjoyment to the relationship, and that is important. I think that oftentimes this key element can be easily forgotten or neglected in our family and spousal relationships. The fun things we did initially in a new relationship after a while can be taken for granted or simply fall by the wayside and we stop creating the fun and joy. So remember to consciously craft fun situations and moments, for these are the glue that hold our memories together and make our lives sweet.

There are so many key ingredients to making and maintaining great, long-lasting relationships. Each of the eight components we discussed brings unique dynamics and rewards to your relationships. Let’s begin to focus on improving our relationships in these areas and see what miracles occur!

Sunday, March 28, 2010

"We must take change by the hand or rest assuredly, change will take us by the throat." - Winston Churchill

Saturday, March 27, 2010

"If you love something and stick with it, you will get phenomenal results." - Bob Proctor

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

"In the absence of clearly-defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until ultimately we become enslaved by it." - Robert Heinlein

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

From The Secret Daily Teachings
Write down all the great things about everyone you know. Make a huge list of all the wonderful things about you. Compliment people wherever you go. Praise every single thing you see. Be a ray of sunshine to everyone you meet, and make their day better for having seen you. Say "Thank you" at every turn. Walk, talk, think, and breathe appreciation and gratitude.

When you do this, your outer life will change to reflect your inner state of being.
"We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." - Sam Keen

Sunday, March 21, 2010

"Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes in to us at midnight very clean. It's perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands, and hopes we've learned something from yesterday." - John Wayne

Saturday, March 20, 2010

"Difficulties in life are intended to make us better not bitter." - Dan Reeves

Friday, March 19, 2010

"Monks and scholars should accept my word not out of respect but upon analyzing it as a goldsmith analyzes gold, through cutting, melting, scraping and rubbing it." - Budda

Thursday, March 18, 2010

From Book "Think And Grow Rich"

There is a difference between WISHING and being READY to receive it.
No one is ready for a thing, until he believes he can acquire it. The
state of mind must be BELIFE, not mere hope or wish. Open-mindedness
is essential for belief. Closed minds do not inspire faith, courage,
and belief.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

"Never become so much of an expert that you stop gaining expertise. View life as a continuous learning experience." - Denis Waitley

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

From The Secret Daily Teachings

Our natural state of being is joy, and it takes so much energy to think negative thoughts, to speak negative words, and to feel miserable. The easy path is good thoughts, good words, and good deeds.

Philosophies which changed my life by Jim Rohn

-For things to change, you have to change.
-Don't wish it was easier. Wish you were better
-Don't wish for less problem, wish for more skills
-Don't wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom. Accept the challenge because you can't grow without the challenge. You can't get rich without the challenge. You can't fly without gravity, you have to understand the challenge. And that's the key now to develope the wisdom to overcome the challenge.
-You can do the most remarkable things no matter what happens.

From Book "Think And Grow Rich"
One of the main weaknesses of mankind is the average man's familiarity with the word "impossible". He knows all the rules which will
not work. He knows all the things which cannot be done.

Monday, March 15, 2010

"We're so busy watching out for what's just ahead of us that we don't take time to enjoy where we are." - Calvin & Hobbes

Saturday, March 13, 2010

"I believe the key to happiness is freedom, and the key to freedom is courage - that is, to do what has to be done and keep doing it until it is accomplished." - Buddy Cianci
"Success is always temporary. When all is said and done, the only thing you'll have left is your character." - Vince Gill

Thursday, March 11, 2010

"Always tell the truth, not only because it is the decent thing to do, but because it gives you such an advantage over the man who is trying to remember his lies!" - Sam Brookes

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

"I believe that thrift is essential to well-ordered living." - John D. Rockefeller
"If I can't make it through one door, I'll go through another door -- or I'll make a door. Something terrific will come no matter how dark the present." - Joan Rivers

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

From The Secret Daily Teachings
Love is the highest power we possess to be in complete harmony with the law of attraction. The more love we feel the greater our power. The more selfless love we feel, the more unfathomable our power.

The law of attraction has been called the law of love, because the law itself is a gift of love to humanity. It is the law by which we can create incredible lives for ourselves.

The more love we feel the greater our power to create a magnificent life of love, joy, and harmony.

Monday, March 8, 2010

"We need a variety of input and influence and voices. You cannot get all the answers to life and business from one person or from one source." - Jim Rohn
"There are two parts to influence: First, influence is powerful; and second, influence is subtle. You wouldn’t let someone push you off course, but you might let someone nudge you off course and not even realize it." - Jim Rohn
"My basic principle is that you don't make decisions because they are easy; you don't make them because they are cheap; you don't make them because they're popular; you make them because they're right." - Theodore Hesburgh

Sunday, March 7, 2010

"I think there's a great beauty to having problems. That's one of the ways we learn." - Herbie Hancock

Saturday, March 6, 2010

"Everyone who got to where they are had to begin where they were." - Richard Paul Evans
"Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - A.A. Milne's Winnie the Pooh

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

"Money is plentiful for those who understand the simple laws which govern its acquisition." - George Clason

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

From The Secret Daily Teachings
Begin your day by feeling grateful. Be grateful for the bed you just slept in, the roof over your head, the carpet or floor under your feet, the running water, the soap, your shower, your toothbrush, your clothes, your shoes, the refrigerator that keeps your food cold, the car that you drive, your job, your friends. Be grateful for the stores that make it so easy to buy the things you need, the restaurants, the utilities, services, and electrical appliances that make your life effortless. Be grateful for the magazines and the books that you read. Be grateful for the chair that you sit on, and the pavement that you walk on. Be grateful for the weather, the sun, the sky, the birds, the trees, the grass, the rain, and the flowers.

Thank you, thank you, thank you!
"If I have seen farther than others, it is because I was standing on the shoulders of giants." - Isaac Newton

Monday, March 1, 2010

"It's no accident that things are more likely to go your way when you stop worrying about whether you're going to win or lose, and focus all your full attention on what's happening right at this moment." - Phil Jackson